The bathroom mirror does not lie. There I stood looking at a reflection of myself. Honestly, I see an aging me. I accept this reality and feel peace within myself. I am ready to smile, forgive my inadequacies, and move on to a new cleansing.
Forgiveness begins by asking God to help us. He is the ultimate helper to fill our soul with love and forgiveness. It is like cleaning your heart with water and wiping away all the dirt. We all make mistakes. It’s not easy to forgive, but this process is necessary to remove any feelings we have buried within. We can see many times in the bible where Jesus teaches us about forgiveness:
Then Peter went up to him and said, ‘Lord, how often must I forgive my brother if he wrongs me? As often as seven times?’ Jesus answered, ‘Not seven, I tell you, but seventy-seven times.’ Matthew 18 22
Without Gods help, bitterness stays on our heart. We feel trapped and down-on-ourselves and down on life in general. With prayer, slowly, our bitterness starts to be replaced by joy and the hurt feels less and less until our heart is peaceful. It’s like you can breathe again; our hardness of heart becomes softer. If we are unable to forgive now because we are hurting too much, then we need to ask Jesus to help us get to the point of being able to forgive. We might have hurt someone else even more then they hurt us. We are human and need to see our own mistakes and to forgive others.
Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:13
We can conclude and say “yes, we got hurt and we suffered, but we are not allowing our spirit to stay bitter and suffocate anymore.” Acting bitter keeps us from getting closer to Jesus because bitterness comes from evil.
But to you who are listening I say: love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. Luke 6:27
If we can reflect our peace and love onto others like light can bounce from a mirror, we feel complete, whole, and want to give more. That light then bounces to others and continues to hit still another and so on. Therefore, we can change the world by starting with ourselves.
If you still have difficulty forgiving others or yourself, look at Jesus on the cross.